If I moved I might potentially have about 50k from a retirement account with my current employer, but I'm looking for creative solutions to the following problems:
1. I've worked for over 20 years in health care, but the health care jobs I see in NH are located in the big cities. I'd like to get out of the city.
2. I'd like to minimize monthly payments on ANYTHING. I do lean toward trying to be self sufficient. That said I'd need to earn at least 100 bucks a month to pay for meds, plus whatever else I'll need for property taxes, etc.
3. I don't know if there's any counties that have rather lenient building codes, but I wouldn't mind just living out of my truck while I build.
Thanks in advance for any info you can shoot my way
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- March 30, 2017, 07:47:15 am
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on: March 21, 2017, 02:24:36 am
|Started by Herring07 - Last post by Herring07|
on: March 20, 2017, 09:59:59 am
|Started by Luck - Last post by Luck|
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My Latest Inspiration: (Update below)
Daily Family Communication
Start each supper with communication: ask everyone to share about how they can help the family be happier.
+ Step 11 + God concept
Big Book page 62: Selfishness—self-centeredness! That, we think, is the
root of our troubles. ... First of all, we had to quit playing God. It didn’t work. Next, we decided that hereafter in this drama of life, God was going to be our Director. ... When we sincerely took such a position, all sorts of remarkable things followed. We had a new Employer. Being all powerful, He provided what we needed, if we kept close to Him and performed His work well.
I agreed about the problem of selfishness, but my Reaction to that last sentence was: Yeah, right. God provides what we need IF we perform His work well. But God can always say, too bad, you didn't quite follow my directions as I intended. You didn't do your work well enough, so I won't be providing you what you need. Then I realized that's how Dad acted as my former employer: judgmental, hard-nosed, unfriendly. I then tried to improve my God concept, since I knew God wasn't like Dad, but it took me 2 or 3 years to find a better believable concept. I had been living in Denver a couple weeks and going to meetings often. Walking to a meeting one day I felt lonely, since I was still living alone and had no close friends. I had previously thought that the feeling meant I needed to find companionship, but this time I asked myself if there might be any falsehood behind that emotion, since there usually is falsehood behind most unpleasant emotions.
As soon as I asked, I realized there is falsehood behind it. Since God is always with us, I realized we're never really alone. So the feeling of being alone is an illusion. So I asked why I felt alone. Again the answer came immediately. It was because I was leary of getting close to God, because I still felt like God is judgmental, hard-nosed and unfriendly. And then I realized God isn't like that at all. God doesn't want to be a slave driver or make life miserable for us. God only wants to be our friend, help us find true happiness and give advice any time we ask for it. And it made sense then to ask God for advice as often as possible. Since then I've tried to ask God's advice often each day. And I learned later to ask for what I may need by thanking God in advance for it.
+ Roadblocks to communication
While trying to have daily family communication during supper, it's best if everyone watch out for common roadblocks to communication, at least when someone has an unpleasant emotion.
- Ordering, Directing: "Stop feeling sorry for yourself..."
- Warning, Threatening: "You'll never make friends if..." "You'd better stop worrying so much or..."
- Moralizing, Preaching: "Life is not a bowl of cherries..." "You shouldn't feel that way..." "Patience is a virtue you should learn..."
- Advising, Giving Solutions: "What I would do is...", "Why don't you..." "Let me suggest..."
- Persuading with Logic, Arguing: "Here is why you are wrong..." "The facts are..." "Yes, but..."
- Judging, Criticizing, Blaming: "You are not thinking maturely..." "You are just lazy..." "Maybe you started the fight first..."
- Praising, Agreeing: "Well, I think you're doing a great job!" "You're right!--that teacher sounds awful."
- Name-calling, Ridiculing: "Crybaby--", "That's stupid to worry about one low test grade."
- Analyzing, Diagnosing: "What's wrong with you is..." "You're just tired." "What you really mean is..."
- Reassuring, Sympathizing: "Don't worry." "You'll feel better." "Oh, cheer up!"
- Questioning, Probing: "Why..." "Who...?" "What did you...?" "How...?"
- Diverting, Sarcasm, Withdrawal: "Let's talk about pleasant things..." "Why don't you try running the world!?" Remaining silent, turning away
-- Two things to know about "Roadblocks":
- These are roadblocks when the person is experiencing a problem or strong feelings (The Other Owns the Problem). When the relationship is in the "No Problem Area" many of these are not roadblocks (e.g., joking, asking questions, etc.). Some, like name-calling and ridiculing are always risky and cause problems.
- You are not a "bad" parent because you use roadblocks. You are doing what you have been taught to do to help others. P.E.T. will provide you with more effective alternatives to begin using instead of these common roadblocks.
+ Communication differences between men & women
- In communication between a man and a woman:
- the man should listen for the woman's emotions, not for solutions to her problems unless she asks and not try to remember all the details of her statements.
- The woman should make her statement clear and to the point. If making a large and complicated point, break it down into chunks that he can fully understand before moving onto your next point. Also try not to interrupt him when he's talking.
Dear prospective GF, if you like to help people, would you like to discuss ideas for a non-profit organization, or a non-profit hospital, or something like that (after our first date)?
FSP -- General Discussion / General FSP Discussion / Re: NH: Chair forbids filming of finance committee meeting @ State House complex
on: March 19, 2017, 09:37:26 pm
|Started by RidleyReport - Last post by Conan the Barbarian|
I wrote Speaker Jasper with the following:
No one can be barred from taking photos or videotaping of NH House or NH Senate proceedings.
Not FC Chairwoman Ober, who is obviously carried away with her own self-importance, and not House Speaker Jasper
RSA 91-A:1-a Definitions.
VI. "Public body'' means any of the following:
(a) The general court including executive sessions of committees; and including any advisory committee established by the general court.
RSA 91-A:2 Meetings Open to Public.
II. ---------- Any person shall be permitted to use recording devices, including, but not limited to, tape recorders, cameras, and videotape equipment, at such meetings.
Speaker Jasper responded:
A mistake was made, by a chairman, which hopefully will not be repeated in the future. That being said there is more to this story, but going into the details serves no purpose. I will simply state that it is the responsibility of any chairman to make sure that the video taping of a meeting is done in a way that is not disruptive to the meeting or to any individual member. It is also the right of the chairman to direct that the video taping take place in an appropriate area of the room. As a point of clarification the rules governing activities within the House and Senate Chamber are subject only to the rules established by the body.
To which I replied:
Is there a specific exclusion under RSA 91-A for videotaping public meetings in the House and Senate Chambers, using their own “rules” to supersede NH law?
I cannot find any, but perhaps you can enlighten us.
Incidentally, I viewed the recording online under Ridley’s Report, and saw no disruptive behavior other than David Ridley politely but firmly asking what law barred his recording, to which no one (guards, attorneys, representatives) would give him an answer.
on: March 18, 2017, 08:50:09 pm
|Started by politicalGRAFFITI - Last post by JasonPSorens|
This time of year with the strong sunlight and temps at least in the 20s most days, often 30s and 40s, it can be downright pleasant to be out and about during the day.
on: March 18, 2017, 08:48:35 pm
|Started by Mrspixiepiper - Last post by JasonPSorens|
Chris Lopez answers those emails, and she's ordinarily reasonably fast, so far as I know. Might be a day or two, though, especially on the weekend.
on: March 18, 2017, 06:24:10 pm
|Started by TG3D - Last post by Levi|
Like Jason said, you should be fine in Manchester with ATT. Verizon is best for NH as a whole. However, even with Verizon there are many rural areas of the state with no reception. I'm frequently without cell reception for up to thirty-minute stretches of drives.
on: March 18, 2017, 10:00:31 am
|Started by BreadBasket95 - Last post by BreadBasket95|
Sweet! Thank you very much, I'll check that out!